Friday, December 30, 2011

Day Eight: Life in Community

Thirty six cups of coffee, two dozen eggs, three dozen tortillas, pico de gallo, hash browns, and fresh squeezed orange juice from Texas fruit from the valley -- that was breakfast for the pizza group this morning. Hershey, the wiener dog, wandered off into the woods, provoking a search -- Debbie in her pink robe and flip-flops leading the way. We sat around picnic tables under the mesquite trees in perfect seventy degree weather to eat and talk. Matt gave his two year old daughter Evie rides in the wagon behind the John Deere and she laughed out loud the whole time. A game of chicken foot got organized on the front porch. Chris' lost earrings necessitated some plumbing work in the guest bath and a trip to the Wilson County Hardware store for a new P-Trap. David replaced two electrical sockets in the kitchen and bath and put a new chute on the lawn mower. Jenna played her guitar on the front porch. David and Diann took a walk around the pasture with two dogs in tow. Half of us walked over to the big sandstone rock where my cousins and I have been carving our initials for forty years. I led another group on a hike on the perimeter of the property, stopping under the huge oak trees for Matt, Jenna, and Julie to climb. Jared and Sarah arrived to join the group and the Henderson's and Mobley's took a trip to San Antonio to walk the river and eat out, celebrating LeAnn's birthday. The Creeches and Haynes' stayed behind to keep the dogs and played round after round of "What's Yours Like?"  Melinda, Jenna, and Chris cleaned up the kitchen and we tuned into the Oklahoma Sooners game, waiting for our Sooner fans to return from the city. The ebb and flow of the day has been simple and rich.

Day Seven: The Pizza Group

About 20 years ago our church began a worship service on Saturday night with about 300 people to accommodate numerical growth that had exceeded the space we had available. When a new facility was ready a couple of years later, about half that congregation returned to Sunday mornings. But the other half found the Saturday night schedule refreshing and wanted to continue. So we did.

Groups of friends usually swarmed the local restaurants after worship and continued the Saturday night experience. A bunch off us regularly crowded in to Godfather's Pizza and became known as "the pizza group." But things changed. Godfather's closed. We started meeting in one another's homes and ordering pizza. Our kids grew up and started going out together instead of meeting with us. So we started going out to eat again. Our metabolism changed and we started eating salads at Sweet Mesquite. Sweet Mesquite changed owners and names. The Saturday night service moved back to Sunday after 18 years. Some of us moved away. But one thing hasn't changed. We still refer to ourselves as the pizza group and we still get together whenever possible.

We try to camp out a couple of times a year. We eat Mexican food at the same house each Christmas Eve. And we've gathered here at the farm several time. Last night four of those couples, four of their adult children, one grandchild, and five dogs from the pizza group met at the farm for a New Years weekend.

Someone brought a portable satellite dish so we could watch football (we have alums from Baylor, OU, and A and M, all of whom are in bowl games). We ate and laughed and chased dogs. I'm pretty well convinced that the irreplaceable friends in life are those with whom you raised your children.

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Day Six: When Things Don't Work (or "How Waffle")


I understand that deep within us lie longings that, for reasons theologians and philosophers ponder, sometimes are left unfulfilled: truth, beauty, justice, meaningful relationships, for example. And also we want things to work. Mechanical things. Electric things. Computery things. Cell phones. We just want them to work. And when they don't emotions range from anger and frustration to sadness and disappointment. Things are just supposed to work. That's why I got a Mac, but that's another blog entry.

Melinda and I went shopping today to upgrade things around the farm house. For the past four years we've been doing with things my grandmother left, but I have to say it had been a long time since she had seen fit to think about linens and towels. So we drove to San Antonio and gathered the things to refurbish the place. New sheets and pillow cases for all the beds (three beds and three queen size sleeper sofas), new towels for three bathrooms, new comforters for two beds, and a new shower curtain. The shopping crowds were small and we got what we needed.

One item we pondered was in Anna's Linens. It was one of those soft padded toilet seats. Only this one was inscribed with Bible verses related to the Fruit of the Spirit, a list of highly desirable character traits produced by the Holy Spirit, listed by the Apostle Paul in Galatians 5:22-23. Somehow that just didn't seem appropriate. At. All.


Our last stop was the new Super Wal-Mart in Floresville. We needed some twin sheets for a spare bed. As we passed through the household appliance section, however, something else caught our eyes. It was a gadget made by G.E. -- one of those waffle irons like they have at some of the chain hotels, the kind that you flip over after you pour the batter in. We have a crowd of friends visiting this weekend and we thought that waffles for breakfast would be fun one morning. So I grabbed one and added it to our carload of stuff.

We wisely thought we'd try it out tonight, and so, with Melinda not feeling well, I mixed the waffle batter, followed the instructions carefully, plugged it it, waited for the green light, poured in the batter, flipped it over, waited three minutes as instructed, and opened it up expectantly, ready for the first golden brown waffle of many to follow. What I had was a half cooked mess. I do make a lot of mistakes and messes, so my assumption was I had somehow screwed it up. I cleaned the waffle maker, waited for the green light, added another batch of batter, and waited five minutes. I opened it up to find a completely uncooked mess. The power light was on. The green "ready" light was on, but there was no heat in the waffle iron. It just didn't work.


I think that sadness and disappointment described my emotional state. There was no one to be angry at. It just didn't work. I pondered the Fruit of the Spirit again -- "The fruit of the Spirit is . . . patience. . .." I asked, WWICD? (What would the Iron Chefs Do?) I threw out the remainder of the waffle batter, mixed some pancake batter, heated up the griddle, and changed the menu.

After I finish writing I will try to find either the Baylor Bears men's basketball game or the Longhorns football game on the radio (if it is working) and I'll clean up the kitchen. I'll repackage the waffle iron and return it to Wal-Mart tomorrow.

Sometimes things don't work. We expect things to go one way and they go another. Pancakes (and a big mess to clean up) instead of waffles. And sometimes its worse than that. Our best response will be the fruit of the Spirit, though I am convince there are probably better locations for meditation on that truth than the toilet seat. Maybe not. Maybe that's the most appropriate place to think about how to respond when stuff happens.



Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Day Five (or Eight): Boxing Day


If any readers of this blog have kept count, they would know that technically this should be Day Eight. I’m claiming Christmas Eve and Christmas Day as holidays that did not require me to write. Now what about the 26th? Well, check your calendar. If you have a calendar from the United Kingdom, Australia, Canada, New Zealand, and some other Commonwealth nations, you know that was Boxing Day on which occasion you should have offered gifts to your servants. Apparently they get the left-overs from Christmas.

If you have a Christian calendar, then you know that the 26th is St. Stephen’s Day, a public holiday in most of those countries that celebrate Boxing Day. It shows up in that curious Christmas carol about Wenceslas I, Duke of Bohemia, “Good King Wenceslas,” who, according to the text, “looked out on the feast of Stephen.”

So, on two grounds – one secular and one sacred – I could claim an additional holiday that exempted me from a day of writing.  But I shall claim neither. I have another place to stand in defense of my neglect of the blog and my violation of my stated discipline of daily writing – it was my birthday.

That’s right, the day after Christmas. I have long sympathized with those whose birthdays fall in the proximity of Christmas Day. I was once part of a support group in our church, which included one person born on Christmas Eve and named “Christy Eve.” I have had clerks ask as they look at my driver’s license before accepting a check: “Oh, your birthday’s the day after Christmas. What’s that like?” I was at Sports Clips a week ago because they sent me a coupon for a free haircut in December as a birthday present. The stylist asked, “So when in December is your birthday?” “The day after Christmas.” “Oh,” she said. “That must be kind of strange.”

Kind of strange? Like in people wishing you “Merry Birthday?” Like in your mother presenting you with a mixing bowl turned upside down with a candle on it on your first birthday? (Not so bad, since as a one year old I had no idea about the traditions of my species on birthdays. But photographing it and thinking I would not grow up to be bright enough to know the difference? Priceless.)  Like in getting a pair of shoes from your grandmother and being told one is for your birthday and one is for Christmas? Kind of strange like getting a card from your family with a picture of two parrots and a rock on the front, reading, “Two Birds, One Stone.” Inside it said, “Merry Christmas. Happy Birthday.”  Like the monthly office party celebrating birthdays in January through November that turns into a Christmas party in December? Kind of strange like people completely forgetting that it is your birthday because they are just too exhausted from Christmas?

"Yeah," I told her, "sometimes." But I don't really mind since the competition in this matter is Jesus. Christmas is His birthday. I get it. So, no, I'm not going to challenge that. 
 
But people who have been around me for a while know this whole schtick of birthday whining and give it back to me in equal parts. Once on the 26th of June our office staff invited me to a half-birthday party replete with half a cake. I have had several small plastic mixing bowls adorned with a candle presented to me. I have received birthday gifts of items picked up at Walgreens the day after Christmas when they are 75% off, with the Merry Christmas marked out and Happy Birthday penned over them. Yesterday the sky was dark and gray and dripped rain for the fourth day in a row. I received a call from a friend: “I was driving along and feeling a bit down and depressed,  wondering why, and then I remembered, it is your birthday.”

So for the fifty-ninth time, Christmas came and went and so did Boxing Day. But I was so busy celebrating that day I just couldn't find time to write.

Friday, December 23, 2011

Day Four: 'Nuf Said


Note the sign to the left of the door ("Beware of Dog"). Note fifty pound bag of "Come and Get It" dog food on pile of curbside trash. Note two arm chairs riddled to pieces. Note large chunk chewed off of door.  Anyone want to warn Santa about going down this chimney?

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Day Three: Interactions

Relationships are more interactive than we sometimes think. We tend to see them as one on one -- my relationship with my wife or husband, with my son or daughter, with this particular friend. It is more complex than that. We are more than observers of the interaction between those around us. We are part of it. A good bit of the joy we experience in the people we care about is seeing them with each other. The joy is more than getting to be with one of my sons -- it is seeing my sons see each other or my daughter see her brothers. The joy of relationships is found in watching my two grand-daughters hug in reunion or play together enthusiastically. It is found in listening in on conversations as we walked the neighborhood streets to see the Christmas lights. Or laughing as the girls dressed poor Cole in a tutu and tiara while he patiently obliged.

C. S. Lewis remarked on the death of his friend Charles Williams, that one of the things he would miss would not simply be Williams' jokes, but watching Tolkien respond to Williams' jokes. Christian community is like that. The joy of community is not just in our being with Christ or our being with a believing friend. It is found in seeing our friend relate to Christ in their own life.





I have thoroughly enjoyed a day of interactions. Our children were together. And their spouses. And their children. And some cousins. And the grand-dogs. I got to be with each of them. But I also got to observe the interactions between them. There is joy in that.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Day Two: Attacking the To-Do List

 My list of things I plan to get done before classes resume in January is long, but manageable. It’s funny how much we overestimate what we can do in a short time, but miss by a mile how much we can accomplish over a decade. But I don’t have a decade, I have three weeks.

Today I revised the syllabuses (syllabi?) for two courses. I teach the same ones every semester: Life and Work of a Pastor (PAST 7336) and Leadership in Christian Ministry (LEAD 7301). The Spring semester will be the sixth and seventh time I have taught those courses, respectively. I don’t do well stuck in a rut, so I change the courses each time I teach them. In the first three semesters the changes were radical – course organization, assignments, schedules. I have settled into an approach in each that feels comfortable and effective. So now I change a text book or two in each course each time. This redirects class discussion, provides different papers to read, and keeps me from getting bored. The good news is that there are plenty of books out there. I’m even working on writing one of my own. At least that’s on my To-Do List.

Making these changes to the syllabus and rearranging my Blackboard sites to match took up most of the day. I have another course to get to – Introduction to Mentoring (MENT 7300). I have only taught it once, so I’m still in the radical change mode there. It will be quite different this semester. But I didn’t get to that one today. The To-Do List is on hold for a week or so.

Tomorrow I will pack up things and drive to Houston to join my family for Christmas weekend. Tomorrow all of my kids and their spouses and kids will be in one place at one time. This is the first time we have all been assembled since Christmas 2006. We’ll have a day at Alan & Kat’s house of just us. After that, it gets crazy. I don’t want to think about it. Let’s just say that there will be fourteen people and three dogs spending the night in the same house on Christmas Eve.

Early next week Melinda and I will return to the farm to work on those things that need to get taken care of during the in-between time of Christmas break. My list includes that last syllabus, finalizing four presentations for a gig at the Lombard Mennonite Peace Center in Chicago at the end of January, editing some work for a friend who has a book in process, preparing to preach at UBC for the first time in two years, preparing to preach at Truett in February, and getting ready for friends to arrive for the New Year’s weekend. I’ll get to all those things eventually, though probably not next week.

The To-Do List is not really a thing to be attacked or conquered, despite the title above. Those lists are what our lives are comprised of.  The lists are to be loved, lived, nurtured, cared for, not attacked. The To-Do List signals that I have a life to live, that I am free. Prisoners do not have To-Do lists. The lonely in nursing homes do not have To-Do lists. Patients in an ICU do not have To-Do lists. So my list sits before me reminding me that I have a life, responsibilities, relationships, gifts, abilities, opportunities, and a few obligations.

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Day One: Of Vermicelli and Vermiculture


This is not a New Year’s resolution of any sort. It is more of an experiment. A practice. An attempt at a discipline.  I’m going to endeavor to write this blog every day for three weeks – from now until Spring classes begin on January 9. A friend took on this challenge earlier this year and I admired her for doing so. Then I’ll see what happens next. Perhaps it will be a habit by then (although research has demonstrated that 21 days to a habit ideas is not exactly correct -- 18-66 days seems to be more accurate). 

One thing this surely means is that my entries are going to be even more mundane than usual. That’s really ok with me. I’m pretty well convinced that the ordinary is where everything that matters happens anyway. I’m not too pressured to pursue profundity. If it ever shows up, so be it. So today is mostly about garbage and worms.

I have made another semi-solitary visit to the farm, preparing for a gathering of friends here later in the month. It is semi-solitary because Cole has accompanied me, and one is not truly alone if a dog is involved. He mostly keeps to himself, doesn’t say much, and only occasionally becomes needy for attention.

I went to bed really early last night, and so I woke up before the sun, made coffee, and settled down to read. Early morning reading is another practice I’m attempting to regain during the winter break. This year I want to read through the Year B Daily Lectionary Readings and I have been neglecting the practice of daily Bible reading since just before Thanksgiving. So I sat down and read through all the Advent readings up to today.  That was both a pleasant and powerful experience. The passages were familiar and well-marked in my Bible (except one in Habakkuk I hadn’t read in a while). The Old Testament readings majored on the prophets and their words about God’s plan and promises for his people – Isaiah, Zephaniah, Ezekiel, Jeremiah, Micah, and Malachi all had something to add. The New Testament readings focused on Christ’s promised return, and today, the narrative of Gabriel’s announcement to Mary. When I had caught up, I wanted to keep going. Listening to this other narrative about another King rather than the crazy narrative I hear daily during the political insanity of an election year was a welcome change of atmosphere and hope. I feel more ready to celebrate Christmas.

I took a break and made myself some pancakes – something I have never done as far as I can remember. Wait, now that I think about it, I do remember cooking pancakes a couple of times as a teenager. But it has been a while. I shared one with Cole, and then he and I walked a half mile down the road cleaning up litter along our property’s frontage on County Road 401. I took a 30 gallon plastic garbage bag with me and had it filled before we’d made it three quarters of the way. I left it on the roadside and continued to gather trash into piles every few yards. Then, since we had to walk back anyway, we decided to do the same on the other side of the road. I felt like Forrest Gump on his run. I couldn't stop When we got back to the house, I dug out three more bags from under the kitchen counter and drove back up the road gathering the trash.  Soft drink cans and plastic bottles, packaging from fast food, and beer cans and bottles made up 90% of the debris. I don’t get it – the sense that it is somehow ok to roll down your window and throw your trash wherever you please, that the world is your trash can, that you can Mess with Texas. I’m not so much outraged as disgusted.

When we were done I drank a limeade (I’m nearly addicted to Simply Limeade), and read a chapter of Dallas Willard’s Knowing Christ Today. I enjoyed his argument for the existence of God based on first cause. I think that’s the first time that argument seemed persuasive to me rather than question-begging. Cole found the argument dense.

After a lunch of leftovers from last night’s whole wheat vermicelli, I put some pinto beans on to cook, and then decided to drive to the Lighthouse Quik Shop, a bait house in Elmendorf, TX near Lake Calaveras, to buy some worms. I wasn’t planning a fishing trip. I’m working on another experiment – vermiculture.  Vermis is the Latin word for “worm.” (Hence, vermicelli are “little worms.”) A friend of ours at a church dinner club two weeks ago inspired me. All of us around the table were discussing home gardens and organic practices and she said she’d begun to raise her own earthworms in a plastic box and it was easy. The earthworms serve as a kind of fast compost pile. You put the organic materials in the box with them and they turn it into castings (earthworm poop) in no time, and plants love the stuff. I made a visit to YouTube and found plenty of videos providing the necessary instruction. I had an old plastic box at the farm, so why not?

I bought about a hundred worms (red wigglers are preferred to night crawlers) and today’s edition of the San Antonio paper, drilled holes in the bottom of the box, shredded the paper and dampened it, added the worms and some food scraps (they don’t like citrus peals or onion skins, I'm told), put the lid back on and left them in the garage.  They need a little moisture added occasionally. They will multiply, eat our leftovers, produce castings, and provide for our spring garden. I’ll take them back to Waco with me when we head that direction.

I finished the beans, read a chapter on our inherent longing for justice from N. T. Wright’s Simply Christian, and then lay on the couch and thought about what I’d been reading (that’s code at our house for a nap).

Somewhere in the middle of all that, I received an email from my son with his design drawings for a new patio and outdoor kitchen at the farm, which may become reality this spring. I called and made an appointment with a recommended landscape company to come out tomorrow and make a bid. And I received an anticipated call from my doctor with good news from some recent test results.

What I didn’t do today was a single thing on my to do list, which included revising the syllabus for three of my courses and organizing my financial record in anticipation of tax preparation. Somehow, there were more interesting things to do, like vermiculture.

Tomorrow.